Conswella is a 37-year-old single mother of two: a 17-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter. She is a Gang Intervention Counselor for the City of Houston and Co-Founder of Abundant Life Teaching, Inc which is an nonprofit to educate, inspire, and empower youth, families, and communities through education regarding mental health, life transitions, and self-esteem! She is “in a stage of life where self-care is a priority and mandatory.” She loves music, and spoken word, and loves to spend time with family and friends.
What was the dynamic surrounding your pregnancy?
With my first pregnancy I was 19 years old and away from home in college. That pregnancy and experience was my catalyst for change. My son was my number #1 motivator to succeed and to continue to better myself on a daily basis! I was unprepared at that age of course, but it pushed me to get in alignment with my purpose! My second pregnancy! Whoooo this little girl has kept me on my toes from the beginning! She has made me sit down and slow down from the womb! My pregnancy was rough on my body physically, where I was placed on bed rest. This drove me crazy seeing that I’m an individual who’s used to moving a mile a minute! I have learned along the way to slow down and appreciate every phase of my pregnancy as well as every stage of my daughter’s development! I’m able to now enjoy watching my daughter grow up before my eyes, as before with my son…I was too busy to enjoy it!
How would you describe your post-pregnancy/motherhood experience?
I believe that throughout both pregnancies my post symptoms were because they were both through cesarean sections. I believe I was with most women with no energy, no sleep, and not enough time to do anything!
Did you ever experience post-partum symptoms or battle with your mental health in any way? If so, how did you cope with it?
I did not personally deal with any post-partum symptoms, but throughout my lifespan had some issues with depression from time to time. I coped with my depression through my faith, counseling, and making time to be present in day to day life. Meditation and Yoga are huge for me, as well as spending time with loved ones.
Describe your routine and activities that you do to maintain your mental health on a daily basis.
I wake up every day and choose to be Grateful for any & every situation!! It can always be worse, and my faith and life has taught me that if I just keep moving…everything works out for the greater good! I practice daily affirmations, and meditation! I practice yoga weekly, and keep myself grounded with being around nature! I try to exercise outside at least 3-4 times a week! I pray daily! Sometimes ALL day! Lol …and again I choose to be present in every encounter & spread love and light to others!
What advice would you give mothers/soon-to-be/potential mothers, based on your personal experience?
I would say that it’s okay if you don’t complete everything on your daily to do list! It’s okay to ask for help! It’s okay that you don’t have all of the answers! …no one does! Surround yourself with individuals whom are positive and radiates light from within! You’re going to need them the most when you don’t have any love or light to give to yourself!! Do your best, and God will carry you the rest of the way!